Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Decisions, Decisions

“A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it.” - George Moore

My mind is not in Africa right now.  Yesterday’s incident clearly proves this.

I put some popcorn on the fire (as Ghanaians say it) and walked to my room.  While in my room, my friend Tiffany called and I chatted with her for a while.  Then I quickly called my mother.  All the while, I’m smelling something burning.  It’s Ghana, I just figured someone was burning trash, because that is what they do here.  As I was chatting with my mother, another teacher, Mary, came to my window and asked what was wrong.  I noticed the entire house filled with smoke and immediately remembered the popcorn!  Doh!  People flocked the house.  My roommate called.  The fire service was even called.  Thankfully it was just a pot of popcorn.  Everyone thought the house was on fire, and if I saw a bunch of smoke coming out of a house, I probably would have thought the same thing.  My ADD is in severe overdrive these days.  I’m reading four different books.  Considering starting a fifth today.  I’m so easily distracted lately that I almost burnt my own house down.  Time to get it together Amy! 

So generally, when I make decisions, I think about my 90-year old self.  When considering an option, I think, as my 90-year old self, will I look back and wish I had done that differently?  I’m not one to go fretting about regrets in my life.  I truly believe that every person and experience is an opportunity for learning.  Still nonetheless, I don’t want to feel like I missed anything.  On that note, I have decided to return to the states a bit earlier than originally planned.  Just a month ahead of schedule.  By mid-May, which is my new departure date, my job responsibilities will be complete.  All of my workshops will be done and I’m not teaching a class this semester.  (Helping kids draw posters doesn’t really count as teaching in my mind.)    

Considering that, as of late, this is a typical day for me, I won't be missing a darn thing by leaving a mere four weeks early.   

Part of me has questioned if I'm punkin out early.  If I would have left five months ago when I was in the midst of deep frustration, then I would have been a punk.  Now I think I'm just making a smart decision.  I went back and forth with this decision over the weekend, but each time in the last few days that I have returned to my room, alone, and laid here watching another DVD in solitude, has verified that I am making the right decision.  At this stage in the game here, I’m definitely in the mindset of, “what’s next?” I believe I have fulfilled my Eat, Pray, Love–find-myself mission.  In fact, considering the amount of time that I have spent with myself, I know all there is to know about Amy T.  Might I add, I think I’m pretty awesome.  lol  And anyways, the last portion of her journey in Eat, Pray, Love was about finding love.  Maybe I can take care of that one on my home turf.  I have always felt torn between two mindsets.  One, being close to friends and family and enjoying the city life.  Two, this perpetual wanderlust that consumes my thoughts.  This experience has simply fueled the fire of desire I have for traveling.  If only we were each granted two simultaneous lives.  Then such conflict could be avoided.  To leave here will be very bittersweet.  Though this journey has been filled with challenges and frustrations, it has also been amazing and spectacular.  Saying goodbye will not be easy, because more likely than not, this is a forever goodbye.

During my time here in Africa, I have seen and done a thousand things that most people I know will never experience.  The people here have been exceptionally kind, understanding, and welcoming.  However, nourishing my own mental health is an important exercise.  Right now, being here alone is not good for me.  My father is not well.  He’s my dad, my favorite guy in the whole world, and I love him beyond words.  To know he is suffering makes me suffer and I want to be closer to him, if for no other reason than to give him a hug and tell him I love him in person.  This is the sort of decision that I know will please my 90-year old self.  I’ve lived Africa.  I really did this.  But there are times when being close to family trumps all else.

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